Motivations and the fact I had known Wendy for many years made the article she wrote a real shock to me. I tried to call her. She never responded. I wrote her an email. This brought threats from one of her male acquaintances. Over the next years I was unsure what to do but began, for the first time, to read her articles. I was appalled. While claiming to be a voluntarist she was justifying domestic violence, even denying it happened, or that men were more likely to be abusive than were women. I lost all intellectual respect for her and slowly realized this should not have come as a surprise.
The first time I heard her speak publicly was at a gathering held at the home of her mentor and then lover, a psychologist who she said, had taken her off the streets when she was 16 and earning her living as a prostitute. Wendy said she had come to Hollywood to escape abuse in her address. Many of us were uncomfortable with her revelations and were grateful there were not more graphic details. She had a right to decide what to do with her life and it sounded as if it had not been a bowl of cherries but being threatened with violence did not strike me as a libertarian sort of response to my letter.
Looking back on what I endured the letter below did not go far enough by a long piece.